This year I struggled with an idea for Lent. Then I read this post and wanted to share. The Catholic Wife is one of the sites I follow.
Lent for the Married
Feb 17, 2015 by Katie Sciba
Andrew and I were passing ideas back forth – sweets, alcohol, eating between meals. What should we give up for Lent? While I have one or two possibilities floating around, I think I’ll choose my Lenten sacrifices based on God’s will for our marriage, which will undoubtedly yield a fruitful Lent and, I’m hopeful, will breathe new life into our vocation for Easter.
Marriage with Andrew is my life’s work. It’s my ticket to heaven and THE most important thing God calls me to do. And so I think I’ll focus my sacrifices and efforts on seeing that WE are bigger than ME. Here are Lenten deeds to do for marriage – please add to my list in the combox!
1) Leave the kids with grandparents (or bring them along!) and go to Mass during the week. Nothing and no one will improve your marriage better than Jesus.
2) Ask, “What can I do to make your day better?” then put the answer at the top of your To Do List.
3) Keep in mind that you two are a team – approach conflict in a way that tackles the issue instead of each other. One of my favorite professors at Benedictine College once told my class, “My wife and I know that we’re two people looking for the truth, so what could be an argument becomes a joint effort toward what’s best for us and our family.”
4) Go to adoration. Drawing closer to Christ will only bless your marriage and parenting.
5) Don’t interrupt – either vocally or in your mind. During an important discussion, listen to your spouse instead of conjuring up your response while he’s talking.
6) Anticipate his needs – does he need a lunch for work? Do you know that his keys aren’t in the usual spot? Put them away. Get his car washed. Send a love note email every day around the same time so he’ll look forward to it. Help make life at home enjoyable for him and your kids.
7) Are you ready for this? Pray the Litany of Humility. Ouch, I know. But lemme tell ya – it hurts so good.
8) Fast. Giving up little pleasures here and there for the sake of a spiritual good will change your marriage.
9) Complete The Love Dare together or on your own.
10) Make time for each other to go to confession.
11) Bless another couple! Offer to watch their kids while they take a much-needed night or morning out together.
Thanks to The Catholic Wife and I hope everyone has a prayerful Lenten Journey.